Resolutions smesolutions. Making new year’s resolutions has been out of fashion for at least a couple of years now, haven’t they? Goals have been the big thing since then and although they still get the occasional eye roll from those of us, goals are actually super important.
I’ve lived without goals for a long time (mostly because I didn’t know what to set a goal for) and honestly, I didn’t get as far as I could have, never mind how much I wanted something. Setting goals made me nervous because everyone tells you that you should date them and have 3-5 steps to achieving them – and they’re not wrong, but sometimes that’s too much pressure.
I’m here for life goals that aren’t crazy – the ones that are achievable and exciting and make us kick everything up a notch because we’ve thought about it and we want it. It’s not getting rid of those extra pounds or drinking a green juice every day, because if we really wanted those things we would have made them happen by now. I’m here for real goals – the things that will happen because we’ll make them.
After thinking for a few minutes I could clearly see what my more personal goals for the year are going to be. Goals that I’d like to achieve separate from my plans for bky. and goals that I’ve already been working toward over the last few months. Keep reading to check them out, and then let me know one goal you have for the year ahead.
Have a piece of freelance writing published
I simply can’t pretend that I’ve always wanted to write or to be published. In fact, for a long time, I was adamant that I didn’t want to write more than I had to (which consisted of short blog posts or a shopping list). Over the last 12 months, however, I’ve gotten more into writing – at least when I’ve been doing it.
Building up a lil’ portfolio of blog posts and articles that are less bky. and more researched and topical is one of my goals for the first quarter of the year – with the larger goal of taking on some freelance writing gigs and pitching my ideas, later in the year.
Attend a blogger event (i.e. don’t chicken out)
In the past, I’ve gotten so close to experiencing my first blogger (or creative networking) event. I’ve been invited to broad bloggery things or sought out groups that looked exciting, but I never made accepting the invite and showing up a priority. Anxiety is definitely partly to blame, but so is my lack of clarity and confidence in my being-a-blogger.
It sounds silly but things like not having a business card, not being involved in many blogger circles and feeling like no-one around me really got blogging enough to support me in my solo ventures, all have really hindered me in the last few years. At least now I know how I can show up prepared.
Save some f*cking money
I mean, lol. If you can’t tell by the tone of this goal… I’ve had a shit time with money recently. Not having enough, spending it without thinking, imagining that it will somehow triple – you get the idea. With moving out (and moving back), people telling me I’m not being responsible enough but then scolding me when I try to not ask for help and a confusion about what I’m saving for, I’ve felt lost in the world of personal finance.
I have a few more ideas about why I want to save this year, so hopefully stashing the money away will mean that I can have a great summer, make some business progress and maybe even get myself back into the big life goals leagues (you know, cars, houses, holidays) – we’ll see how I get on.
Dress for me
Years have passed since I last showed an active interest in fashion or personal style, but I’ve always had the ambition to create a wardrobe that I love and dress in a way that feels completely me. I’ve struggled a lot with body image and confidence and although those issues aren’t going to lessen without work, I’m well under the impression that I can still dress the way I like – even if I’m maybe not exactly who I want to be yet.
This year I’m going to focus on dressing in pieces and colours that I love. I want to get away from fast fashion and invest a little more in higher quality pieces that I’ll want to wear all-year-round. I’m not going to be dropping hundreds on clothes, shoes or bags though, more just fine-tuning my tastes and choices to suit me, my lifestyle and the body I have now.
Find some local colourful walls
Peterborough isn’t exactly the most colourful place, but anywhere and everywhere has hidden gems, right? When I was in Edinburgh in December I realised that sometimes a colourful wall can be the thing I need to say, ‘oh can you take a few pictures of me?’ – as you remember, one of my goals for bky. this year is to show more of my face (to prove that I’m a real person mostly), and colourful walls might just help get me there each week.
It’s also about making the most of where I am, I guess. Hearing people tear down the place they live is the most frustrating thing- we’re here now so why not try to find the best bits of the creative and progressive city we’re in (most cities are creative and progressive if you look in the right places).
Really start a newsletter
In the summer I hinted about starting a newsletter but I came across a few obstacles. Firstly, I didn’t know why I wanted to start building a mailing list, and secondly, I didn’t know what kind of value I’d be giving those who did subscribe. Now I’ve carved out my little space on the internet a little more, I’ve got some great ideas for newsletters and I can’t wait to get the ball going this weekend.
I know a lot of bloggers and creative internet people have jumped on the newsletter bandwagon in the last 12 months – but it’s all for a good reason right? Connecting with the people who would actually give you the time of day, spreading positive messages and building a little tribe of bloggers who want to do. I’m excited and I hope you are too – keep your eyes peeled.